I seriously have man issues.
The one I want (Duncan) hasn't talked to me since Valentines Day. I haven't called him and he hasn't called me.
Michael calls me sporadically, here and there to talk about nothing. Just friendly chatting.
Then there is Josh. He sends me a text message or 2 every night and usually calls me to talk for a minute before I go to bed. Last night was no exception....
He called around 9:30 and talked to me for a few minutes. He asked me to come see him (He lives in Pennsylvania, 9 hours away) and I told him that was not an option. Josh and I have a history. We dated back in 2004 and it was hard because it seemed like I was the only one giving to the relationship. We decided the distance was way to hard, so we broke it off. He is quite the 'ladies man', so my trust with him is a little sketchy. He's never broke my trust, but I'm scared he will one day. Last night after we got off the phone I was almost asleep and I got a text message from him...
Him: Hi hun, i miss you. i think you should come up here. I love you, I thought that you hated me.
My Reply: (First, I laid there in bed - in shock. I didn't see this coming)
you make me smile :) I can't hate you. Its cheesey but I've always loved you, I just hide it well. And, I want to come see you, but I don't want to drive up by myself, maybe when scott and karrie come up again. You might have a girlfriend then.
His Reply: No, I'm not going for anything. I want you and we were meant for each other.
My Reply: (This totally took me off guard, I've always thought that he was going to be that guy for me, but I never knew he was aware of that)
I hope your right :) That would require one of us to make a change, like move.
His Reply: I know, I thought about that a lot but I want you to be with me so whatever it takes to make it happen.
My Reply: I'm glad you've thought about this, hopefully that means your serious and not drunk. Love you, goodnight.
I haven't heard anything back from him. I do not believe he was intoxicated, but I didn't know what to say. It took me completely off guard. He's been in my life since the fifth grade. I'm not going anywhere, so if he wants me - then he better be moving.
There are perks to Josh. He owns his own business, which is doing very well. He's completely independent and he is proud of that. He's certainly not a Momma's boy, like the type I generally attract.
He's already sent me "Good morning Babe" this morning. Just now. I guess that means he's serious. I won't believe it until I see some moving, like him moving here! Ha ha.
Why do I attract men like this? Why?
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
I have man issues....
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If I had your email address, I'd email this to you... but read this and re-read it a million times. And think about it when you are thinking of these guys who I, personally, think are not worth your time...
For all my girls...
This is for all my girls, since I'm going through so much of this myself right now!!!
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away, if he doesn't want you - nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache, stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women - he didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god! He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
GO READ SO GONE OVER YOU AGAIN....
Don't make changes for him...
But for a relationship to work it takes too people!
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